Leading Discussions in Families

Both formal and informal discussions can help youth ponder the trek experience and the gospel in their lives. For a formal discussion, the Ma and Pa could gather their group and sit in a circle. The Ma or Pa could share a pioneer story, ask one of the youth to share a story, or share thoughts about an experience from the day. The Ma and Pa could then ask questions to start the discussion. These questions should invite reflection and introspection. Questions could include:

• What parallels do you see between your own life and the experiences of the pioneers? · In what ways are you a pioneer?

• How do you feel about the trek so far?

• What are you learning from this experience?

• What challenges do the youth of the Church face today?

• How can learning about the experiences of the pioneers help you face your challenges?

• How can the decisions you make now affect your future? 

• How can your decisions affect other people? How can they affect the generations that come after you? 

To conclude, someone could share scriptures that are relevant to the discussion, and then the Ma, Pa, or one or more of the youth could share their testimonies. 

If the Ma and Pa struggle to get the discussion started, they could begin at a point in the circle and invite each person to respond to a question. The Ma and Pa could then follow up with questions that encourage further discussion and application. Everyone should be encouraged to share, but no one should feel required. 

The Ma and Pa listen carefully to what each person says and give reinforcement. Youth should know that their ideas are heard and valued. Generally the Ma and Pa should do more listening than talking. 

The Ma and Pa ensure that participants do not criticize, judge, or blame others. If negative feelings about others are expressed, the Ma and Pa let the group know that the intent of discussions is for individuals to share insights and feelings about themselves—and about others if those feelings are edifying.